There we go again...

It had been slightly a week since the thought-provoking Tuesday post, and we are slapped with another case - this time the death of a six year old boy in the hands of his caregiver. If the boy in the previous post had his life packed in a suitcase, well, this poor boy was literally packed in a suitcase....dry humour? wry sarcasm? try revoltness to the max, regret to the max and a sadness that could not translate into words... another 'classic' case of a young marriage, birth out of wedlock, drug addiction, caregivers working to support ends meet, absent parents...Ya Allah! the list goes on...

Berat mata memandang, berat lagi bahu memikul

(it is heartwrenching to see the grandmother holding tightly to the boy's t-shirt and kissing it...painful, just too painful to see and to imagine...
it is too easy to blame the mother, the grandmother, everyone who should have been there for the boy but chose to let him wander alone at the playground until late at night...
life is never that easy to explain and to find solutions.... Nobody in their right mind would think that the grandmother was a heartless, unthinking and uncaring person..nobody ask for such a thing to happen to his family..)

Please, please don't say 'Sudah takdir'....yes, it is ' fated to be this way, but could we have taken precautions, care a little bit more, monitor a little bit more, BE MORE RESPONSIBLE, so that when we say 'Sudah takdir', it really means that we have done our human best to be the best to those under our charge....? When are we going to stop being apologetic to all negativities around us and start OWNING UP, that this problem, is OUR PROBLEM, not only the problem of a particular group?

One hopes that this mindlessness will end here, the buck stops here...
Ya Allah, please avert all of us from such a fate. Please. Amin.

Statistics have shown that those who marry young, will normally end up in a divorce:
Please don't marry young!

Statistics have shown a marriage will most likely be rocky and end in a divorce if the parents are not financially stable:
Please be financially stable before you take the akad!

Statistics have shown that an abused child will tend to abuse his own children:
Please be aware of this and if you are affected, GET OUT of the vicious cycle!

Statistics have shown that if the woman is more intelligent than the husband, a divorce is NOT likely to happen.
Please don't be egoistic! Appreciate a woman's intelligence!

Bottomline is, marriage is not just about love and protecting oneself from the sins of lust. Marriage is also about the roof over the head, the bread on the table, the sleep lost with the arrival of the baby, soiled diapers and sometimes, yes, shattered personal dream of that Master's degree, of that promotion which would mean less family time. And yes, marriage is also about changes - your status, your spending power, your independence and yes, it is also about personality changes people go through - all these, without maturity, without stability, can create havoc in the family. The family is the basic unit of a society. A broken family is a chip breaking off from society . Anything happening to the family will eventually affect the community as well.

Yes,i know...easier said than done.
But at least, the words are spoken, and may good words become doas that will bring goodness in the end. Amin.

May Allah give patience to Edy's family...As for the late Edy,we all know WHERE he is now - a better place, insyaAllah.

As for the fate of his 'murderer'? Well, let that be Allah's affair...